I am so glad to know this post spoke to you. I’ve always thought I had a natural short fuse too. When your personality is bent that way it is especially difficult to try and control your temper in your own strength. Finding my true emotion, and then going to God with that emotion and looking to His Word for help dealing with it, has greatly helped me with my anger.

Hopefully you and your fiance can patch things up quickly. Congratulations on your engagement

Praise God for this post! For as long as I can remember, I have had a short fuse. I will hold things in until they blow up! I always attributed it to my genetics and social situation, all the while trying to be “slow to anger” in a way that would be pleasing to God. Yesterday I took the opportunity to get angry with my fiance because I misinterpreted what he said, and now there are hurt feelings on both sides of our relationship. I have been in years of counseling, and never have I heard that anger is expressed when I am unwilling to accept the true emotion. Thinking about yesterday and other examples of my anger, that is so true! Trying on my own to deal with anger was not helping, and God definitely used this post to speak to me! Thanks so much! What a blessing!

~Ashley

If it takes so much to make you mad then you are probably feeling something else before you are feeling the anger. Let me know how it goes as you dig further. You can click my name to email me or you can leave another comment here

I’m glad you found the post helpful. And I totally understand your bout with bad hair days. Today, mine is in a reasy ponytail Glad I’m not alone in my hair frustrations

You are so right! There are often other feelings laying a foundation beneath the fear (or anger). Just this morning I had to go to the Lord and ask, “Why is this situation making me so angry? What am I really feeling here?” Sometimes I’m surprised by what He reveals to me. Other times I could see it coming. But it’s always helpful to go before God and ask Him to help me search my heart. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding

Thanks for leaving such an honest and vulnerable comment. You are definitely not alone in your struggle with this. I’m encouraged to know that your counselor gave you similar information. Looking up verses and identifying what my feelings were telling me about God and my current view of Him has been revolutionary for me. It’s so much easier to spot the lies that our emotions sometimes feed us that way!